It happened unexpectedly. While we were teaching math, I noticed how he playfully blew in my son’s ear as they were working through a tense moment. It was subtle, but it allowed them both to pause, and smile.
My first thought: I should do that.
My second thought: I want to try that.
My third thought: I AM DOING THAT!!?!
This email isn’t about my homeschool life, a particular subject, or even about my husband.
This is about possibility and setting goals to reach it
This is a reminder—to myself—that as the New Year approaches, I need to surround myself with people who, quite literally, show me what’s possible.
Growth. Strategies. Ideas. Fun!
I crave to be around people who want to push me to new places and stretch me on what is possible. Not only thriving in business, but in family vacations or friend get-togethers or marriage getaways! I want all parts of my life to be epic.
But this leads me to the sticky question of HOW.
How do I get into a life of growing and stretching to what is possible?
No idea.
I hate admitting that, but I won’t stop looking for it.
So here’s a current breakdown of my plan:
- Weekly dates with my husband (3 connection dates, 1 housekeeping meeting) – find out how we are doing at marriage and raising children together, share ideas, share goals, and discuss specific strategies for achieving them. I love that my husband doesn’t 100% agree with me; he is someone who often stretches me.
- Dates with myself (self-care) – this can be a mix of independent lunch dates at restaurants my family members don’t enjoy, workouts to keep up my endorphins, or going to a networking event in my area. Self-care is about taking care of YOUR needs. If your ADHD is anything like mine, self-care feels selfish (that damn negative self-talk), but is TOTALLY a must!
- Routine changes (homeschool, work, friends, play schedules) – with life pulling me in every direction, and having ADHD, I make easy, but different, daily routines so I don’t get bored with the monotony of life OR overwhelmed with the amount of tasks. This gives me the energy to WANT to attend the social events. If I didn’t plan, I would not have a social life.
- Mentor – I meet every week for one hour with a brilliant, demanding mentor. She’s an ace in my pocket…one day I’ll look back and cite her as the single most pivotal person in my professional life at this time.
Like always, this is an experiment in growth. I’m sharing it so you, too, can experiment with growth and expand into new possibilities.
Cheers to possibilities!
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